Back to the building society today to draw out more money to pay more fcuking bills, i got the council tax bill to pay which is £134, also sky TV package to pay for which is £38 and the 2nd payment for our TV license which is £27 .

When i got up this morning i went to the local shop AND put £30 on the gas metre card and £20 on the electric metre as well.

Yesterday i paid £98 mobile phone bill WHICH WAS WELL OVER TWO MONTHS DUE .

I paid the mortgage I have with Helen which is £808 Thursday last week , and paid £500 on my joint mortgage with the ex wife on the Friday as well . on top of all this I have £160 a month car repayments and £75 for insurances for house and contents and life insurance.

I got paid £1408 from my main job and £902 from my second employment I have food and diesel to get me to and from work for another three weeks at this moment in time I have £738 in my building society account.

we have to collect a gas fire and pine fire surround which have slate back and hearth o pick up over Easter holidays that we won on Ebay, winning bid £105 , the thing is we have to go down to Surrey to collect it yippee , Helen bought me a Tom-tom sat nav for last Christmas, we have used it a few times on various journeys and they do save time and money since you don’t go miles out of your way or get lost.

Other interesting things I did today I bought six free range duck eggs and had my haircut, who now says my life is boring .

After having her Mobile phone disconnected for the last fifteen days , Helen has finally managed to pay her mobile phone bill and it was finally reconected and switched back on mid afternoon today , this is a new record for her mobile being disconnected by her provider which just happens to be the same as mine o2.

Saturday afternoon went to the White Rose shopping centre , this was after Helen had finished work at half past one.When we got there no where to park it was full as far as the eye could see everywhere was grid locked , cars waiting to park up and cars waiting to leave, cars trying to back out of spaces to exit, but no space to move in to. Nothing was leaving and nothing was moving any great distancesfor minutes at a time we was more or less stationary, after twenty minutes Helen got out of the car and went in the shopping mall, She called in to Debenham's to get some foundation and blusher which was well forty four quid, she should have stayed in the car , she came back to the car as I still had her debit card i borrowed it the night before when i went to the garage for some cigs , I was more or less in the same place she went back again and made her purchase , she also went to Gregg's for pasties egg mayo sanrnies and coke .she returned back to the car , I had moved fifty yards it took another fifty minutes to exit and get on the dual carriage way and home ward bound we was nearly hour and a half stuck in a bloody car park least we had our pasties’ and coke and egg mayo .

Helen is now addicted to Panini’s she loves the chicken and mayo ones with a order of side salad and fries , we get them from a pizza take away near to where we use to live over Farsley. She had one Saturday night and one Sunday night so I had to join he and was forced in to getting my fav two nights running also doner kebab meat and fries with cheese and chili sauce, quite a few calories i know worse thing going for fat and cholesterol a heart attack every mouthful.

Paid my o2 bill this dinner time £98.11p ouch it is for two months billing, I don’t know how I got away with it so long without getting my phone blocked , good excuses I guess, as i stopped direct debit ages ago and closed my then existing bank account,so can’t pay over the phone or online,without debit or credit card atm I have neither, you can’t even go into a o2 shop and pay your bill over the counter is that utterly stupid or what .

They had to send me a giro payment slip so I could walk in to a bank and pay, it which I had to ask for twice, my contract is up in may looking at o2 simplicity sim card over 12 month contract to me look like some very good deals on offer stick with my original hand set LG viewty which does me for the time being.

Helen as been busy leading the windows the lead cost £15.00 for a fifty metre roll we bought two rolls.bought a Mexican pine coffee table second hand like new for forty pounds for the living room .Helen also has been busy staining the banister again we are going to paint the spindles cream .

Opened a new bank account with the Yorkshire bank will get a card to make withdrawals from the hole in the wall the Leeds building society don't issue hole in the wall cards which makes life difficult all i have is a pass book and can only make withdraw ls by physically going in to the branch .Both wages did go in to the Leeds account i was worried they wouldn't, one wage went in on the Thursday and one in on the Friday none went in to the old account with the Halifax.

This morning I took Helen to our doctors so she could get her inoculations for her holiday to Egypt, she flies out on the 7th of May for two weeks
Helen hates needles although she does have two tattoos on her lower back ,for the last couple of days she has been losing sleep over having to get her holiday jabs done .
She needed to have two injections one in each arm , I held her hand and kissed her whilst she looking away from the nurse and was being injected two times.

I then had to drop her off home had a quick cup of coffee with her before I left for work. at least today will go that bit faster.

I got a email of Helen saying whilst she was out she passed a second hand/charity shop and spotted a large antique pine mirror it maybe second hand but it will still be new to us and we have been wanting to get one to sit on top of the fireplace in the living room since we moved in ,and for only £25 its a great bargain , so I am going to finish work half a hour early this afternoon to go and pick it up with her before I go to my job at the hospital .

Yesterday i had the day off we decided to go over to Bolton Abbey and take Ellie our westie with us it was sunny but cool got over there just around dinner time parked up near the Pantry and Tea Cottage walked down to the Abbey and down to the water Ellie went in the river there was ducks about but she did'ntt fuss over them or try to attack them .
Walked along the course of the river and crossed using the bridge near to were the stepping stones are and followed the course of the river up to the bridge at the other end wanted do the walk through the Strid wood but didn't have time will come back with a picnic hamper at around Easter time , We then followed the road back to near where we had parked up this took us over a good two hours to get us back to somewhere near to where we started , went to the Tea cottage for afternoon tea had a pot of tea and a pot of coffee with two scones with home made jam and clotted cream for under eight pounds .

Took Helen to work then i went home due to the fact i was not down to do a shift.
Started cutting and fitting the spindles that we bought for the stairs it’s a while since I have done any joinery work
I bought a brand new hard point saw for the job and it cut the angles spot on without running out did the main flight
Of about sixteen spindles before I had to pick Helen up at one o clock did the rest when we got home finished at around eight o’ clock .
Went to Helen's parent house for tea we had two chickens in the freezer her mum agreed to cook them for us seeing we still don’t have a cooker.
Her dad gave us a washing post we can put in the rear garden £21 at B&Q

Sunday
Both of us went to work and we both finished at three in the afternoon went to Wickes bought some post fix for the washing line post and some white primer for the wooden spindles .
Went for a drive and ended up at the Whitehouse at Roundhay for something to eat I had peppered sausages with mash washed down with pear cider and Helen had scampi with side salad washed down with half a lager and lime.

What a day yesterday went to work at the hospital after I finished my college job and decided to give Helen a call see how she was ,no answer left it 15minutes called again no answer so sent a text RU OK ,no reply left it ten minutes called the land line no answer waited ten minutes called the land line again still no answer so i texted a message to her phone again waited no reply so i left a voicemail message and waited again no reply.

I thought she might have gone to her parents house to return the photographs we scanned in last night and forgotten to take her phone, so I called them at their house they had not seen or heard from her all day,all of this happened over the space of over two hours finally.

I finally got a phone call from her she had left her phone on charge in the bedroom we both do this as we use them for alarm clocks had gone back downstairs and had fallen asleep on the sofa and of course didn’t hear her phone ringing.

Helen does complain of dizzy spells and had been known to pass out it happened once at work last year so there was reason for me to be worried another thought I had was she started painting off the ladders and had lost her footing and fallen.

When I got home she was not in the house was in total darkness and the door confined to the kitchen ten minutes later she returned her eldest son was kicking off he has lost his job a few weeks ago and had split up with his girlfriend to top it all he left his bike on the drive and someone had it away he was sending silly texts messages that had Helen worried enough to go seek him out.
He hangs out near his father’s house which is a council estate on the wrong side of town Helen was upset and concerned so she went looking for him with her friend you had called round and had a car just to make sure he didn’t do anything untoward to himself or others.

Another thing had happened her youngest son who is only thirteen was sent home from school he was having feeling faint and his heart was racing and beating too fast later on in the afternoon it happened again , he ended up going to casualty at around half past eight at night took get checked out , I took Helen round to her mums house and dropped her off with her mother at the casualty department they did all the checks blood levels, sugar levels and hooked him up to a ECG he got a clean bill of health and was sent home .

Helen got back home just after midnight we cooked potato waffles egg and bacon put in to a bread cake for tea/supper watched Jade Goody’s wedding ceremony on living tv which just depressed us even more was quarter to two when we went up to bed .AND TO CAPE IT ALL ITS FRIDAY THE 13TH TODAY CANT WAIT .

Finished work last night got home as I was supposed to be finishing the painting to the landing stairwell off the ladders that I had borrowed a few weeks ago.

Helen months ago borrowed some photographs and albums of her mother which to her mum are a bit less priceless to her then the crown jewels are to the Queen they safely moved house with us just before Christmas, her mother is worried they will get miss laid lost ,stolen or destroyed by water, damp, wood worm, mice, fire ,lighting the dog the cat etc etc.

Anyway last night we was suppose to take them back her mother she has asked on numerous other occasions for their safe return but they was still waiting to get scanned in to the computer using a flat bed scanner I have , so after tea last night at around half past nine we started to scan them to the pc one by one we must have done around 150 photos of holidays old family shots in black and white holidays birthdays houses etc a entire life time contained in a few albums and some nice ones of Helen twenty years ago with a perm and brown hair hehe but still so very sexy and attractive was looking for the swim suit ones no joy.

So it was well after 2’o clock when we finally got to bed this morning and later when we got to sleep hence why I am so bloody tired today .

Helen is going to go to Egypt in May for two weeks,I am going to miss her more and more each day when she does leave and two weeks is going to be a life time especially for the first few days.

But i am going to work hard and go to bed early and sleep though and count the days until she safely returns home.Buy four books to read and watch DVDs and chill out when she does return tanned and refreshed i will take some holidays and spend a few days alone with her with out the interruption of work hopefully if i can get holidays from both jobs sorted out to coincide with each other

This will be the longest we have ever been apart, leaving her each morning that i go to work and not seeing her for twelve hours most days is way too long, so two weeks is going to be a life time and 1 day will feel like 1 week .

Had a mate round to price up putting a RSJ in and taking down the kitchen and dining room wall it will be about £100 to get the 7x4 RSJ cut to size and delivered and I reckon he will want £250 to £300 for doing the job then we got another £70 for the cost of a skip to dispose of the bricks and kitchen units that we will have to rip out.

Finished work at half eight last night picked Helen up and we went to ikea again , bought a wicker dog basket four candles and two rugs for one of the bedrooms went to a local Indian take away got a wicked mushroom basmati rice chicken curry poppadoms and chapattis probably not the best thing to eat at midnight just before bedtime but when the hunger pangs hit and the choice is Chinese or Indian then its usually no option although I love Chinese duck in curry sauce the bill came to £13.50 and they knocked it down to £10.80 for some reason they always do this .

We found out yesterday that since 14th of February Helens decree absolute was granted so she is now a single woman again her divorce is final and her marriage is over for good , and I am no longer cohabiting or no longer living with a married woman.
I hope to be single again very soon myself; marriage certificates and houses didn’t keep us apart
I hope the woman I am now with and the woman I am madly in love with Helen is the woman I hope to stay with and live with no other woman comes close I am happy contented and for the next two years I maybe skint but we have a mortgage and we are buying a house that won’t be just bricks and mortar but a home we both want to be in until we sell it and buy a little cottage somewhere idyllic.

Two mates that I have worked with in the past one has in the last fortnight up rooted and gone to live with a girl that he meet a few months ago on face book she lives in Liverpool with her parents who own a B&B .
They have been meeting up for the past few months now he has packed his job in giving up the accommodation he was renting and shot of to Liverpool all in the name of love.

My second work mate from the past , got a computer a few years ago after he had to be talked in to getting one he didn’t see the point or the big attraction in being online or the Internet eBay etc, anyway he does now he can’t live without it he is constantly in front of his computer or laptop .

After being on his own for the last fifteen years he got chatting to a woman from America via chat rooms msn and speaking to her on the Internet phone skype.

He has jetted over a few times during the last two years he had never left England before this , she lives in a massive trailer caravan and is going through a divorce and she hopes to walk away with around 100k dollars settlement (my ex wife loves her already )which for around 80k you can buy a decent bungalow with a bit of land thrown in he is a vegetarian so growing his own food would appeal to him especially if he cant work and earn a wage .

He likewise is packing it all in, his job and flat he rents and has lived in for the last ten or so years to be with the woman he loves .with American employment laws I think he has to be a house husband for a few years even if they get married there will be issues regarding his right to work and live in the USA .It’s nice to know that love still makes the world go round or is that just me being sentimental romantic.

Friday
Helen went to see Steve Holbrook with my two sisters at Pudsey civic hall; I did some painting in the hallway giving the walls the first coat.

Saturday
Went to the red bus cafe on the A64 for breakfast had the full mashing with black pudding ,the actor who plays Zak Dingle in Emerdale called in for his breakfast.
Went to Lawnswood crematorium bought a wooden heart some small photo frame a big steel square lantern and a clock in a metal frame that is in a plant pot planted up with ivy so that it grows round the skeleton framework and hides it .
Went to garden centre at Guiseley and bought a weeping willow, magnolia, fern tree and a wisteria which we planted up once we got home.

Sunday
both of us back to work finished at three took a load of grass cuttings and carpets we had ripped up from the upstairs bedrooms to the local tip.
Went to B&Q and bought a Victorian archway for the back garden ordered pizza for tea did the rest of the painting in the down stair hallway and put everything back in its place before going to bed.

Monday
lost debit card somehow went in to the Halifax to use the cash machine i have some bills i pay via the cash machine set up which i did , i was then going to queue to cancel some direct debits but decided not to when i saw the amount of people already in the queue i walked down to the next branch where i found i had lost my card what a fcuking pain cancelled the direct debits and cancelled the lost card as well will take a few days to get a new one posted out hopefully.
The spindles came this morning first thing ,which i had ordered online Friday from screwfix be busy busy busy when i get home tonight need to get some undercoat.

Changing bank accounts went in to town at lunch to open a new building society account i can pay direct debits from but i don't get a atm card i have to go in and draw cash out from the branch itself with my payment book that be weird and take some getting use to will stop impulse buying i guess ,

I will have to set up all direct debits again this is because of a joint bank account and a £3000 overdraft that my ex wife ran up,i bank with the same bank and because of what i earn and wages going i from both jobs every month i think they will confiscate all my money to claw back this £3ooo, this would make life for me unlivable and would put in serious trouble with my mortgage and car loan.

Due to the fact that my wife wont pay a penny TO CLEAR THIS DEBT OFF so every month for the past six months i have been paying the bank charges and interest charges and every month she has paid nothing , basically i have had enough the bank don't seem to care and wont freeze the account they wont put half in my name and half in hers so i can pay my half back they want it all or nothing so i am getting wages diverted in to this new account and they cant touch my cash right or wrong i have been advised to do this by cccs http://www.cccs.co.uk/ i am stopping payments on credit cards and all other unsecured loans i have my mortgage sorted, my credit rating will dive but with the cash i pay for child maintenance £300 a month spousal maintenance of £85 a month and £2500 solicitor bill that i am paying back at £75 a month.

I have very little choice every body has got there finger in the pie some want a whole fcuking slice i have to control my finances if i don't ,then my debts will just escalate the first thing i was advised was to open a new bank account today i did just that.

Now the hard bit starts once my unsecured creditors find out that they are all going to get a quid a month i think i be on top of everybody contact list I think my postman will be doing over time and i think my mobile will go to constantly ringing hope i can battle the storm and get out the other side in less two years all maintenance stops and my house gets sold and i get half the profits THEN I WILL PAY EVERYONE OFF hope it flies bye.

All these photos are of dining room we have not decorated this room we are planing on knocking through the wall were the book case is in to the kitchen so we have a large kitchen dinner similar in size to what we had when we was renting the house at Rodley .

We need to buy units to go in to each of the alcove's , also we need the computer sorting out getting it off the floor after a while your knees start to hurt and tend to lean over which is no good for the back.

I have put the wireless router near the porch at the front of the house this is where the phone line comes in i have run the earth net cable under the carpet to the back dining room so there is no no visible wires ,well hardly so far so good Sky broadband seems to be ok.
would like to borrow a laptop to check the wireless router out and see what coverage we get through the house,i might invest in a net book or a cheap second hand laptop if it was decent enough download speeds .

Back on line at home we have finally got our Sky broadband connection sorted out ,not before time .
got the pan rack up too,still ain't got a cooker yet but we cant have everything straight away can we .

finally got the grass cut to the front and the rear of the house Helen is now suffering with her recurring back pains she has been working really hard painting walls and ceilings she doesn't stop plus she has been doing extra hours on her hospital shift.Her son Ste who lives with us as been laid off which is going to make life had going his board money will sadly be missed so far he has paid us up to date so no immediate worries.
Need to start budgeting money know for the next couple of years we have to be careful both gas and electric are on metres we need to make sure they are always topped up and that no matter what we always have gas and electric.But still in love with Helen have no regrets still smiling still miss her when she is not with me got a trip planned for Scotland in November and going to wedding on the isle of White next year plenty of things to forward to plenty of things that will take us nearer to January 2011 when i stop paying maintenance money every month of £386 a month

My solicitor charges £195 an hour plus £19.99 per letter he sends out or his firm sends out how do they expect anyone to pay a bill of three thousand pounds i earn less than £13 a hour.

You don't have to be a mathematician to work it out i have to work 60 hours to pay him four hours work i owe him for just over 15 hours work if he works a forty hour week he earns £7800 a week that's £405,600 a year plus costs of letters they send out his wife works with him as a solicitor as well i bet they don't worry about the price of gas and the rising cost of petrol.

The minimum they expect me to pay is a hundred pounds a month three hundred pounds and two hundred pounds was mentioned i will be hard pressed to manage a hundred pounds a month

I was back in court Monday over the divorce before Judge Lord ,Lord being his name .Helen came with me again like she had done previously the month before , the valuation of the house the court had asked for had been completed and it had been valued at 110k giving 35k profit if the house was sold for that price , we previous had an evaluation to sell the property by a local estate agent who knows the market at 125k which my ex wife didn't revel to the court.

After three hours of backwards and forward all parties had agreed a settlement, that i would pay child maintenance of £300 a month which is what i was paying anyway and that i would also pay spousal maintenance of £86 a month this amount covers the cost of the monthly mortgage repayments that is until until my son is eighteen which will be in January 30th 2011,so in effect she is living rent free for the next two years .

I am looking at it as a bar of chocolate that has twenty four pieces and every month i eat a piece and then there is one less.

After the two years or twenty four months the house is then is to be sold i will legally not be responsible for paying her anything and the profits from the sale split 50-50 , my wife didn't seem over the moon about this settlement and i had already offered her the same deal out of court two months ago and she refused to get to here as cost me over £2500 in legal fees my wife is receiving legal aid she could afford to drag it out i couldn't to take it to the next round would have cost me another £3000.

I came out of court and had a parking ticket such is life still rollin bye just . Helen was magnificent throughout the day AS ALWAYS SHE IS and supported me the whole way through i cant thank her enough , she had words with my ex wife and had ago with her said boyfriend, she makes everything worth while she makes me happier than i have ever been and she is worth more to me than anything, happiness makes us live longer and if it doesn't at least it makes the journey more worth while